It seems of late a number of you have been sending us questions on various relationship problems. Some are easy to answer, some are funny and some are just shocking- and actually caught us off guard! We feel it would be good to share some of the experiences of fellow young people as you may be going through the same thing and may even be in a better position to give your two cents on it. We of course will exercise anonymity for the person(s) in question as we respect the privacy and dignity of the individual.

This week we start with a guy who sent us an e-mail asking a quite serious swali. The guy says that he has been dating this wonderful girl for over a year now and he is quite sure that she is his “missing rib” (if you remember the creation Story then you’ll know that this is actually a nice way to refer to your better half). Anyway, he says that he had even introd her to his folks cauz he was that serious about her. He gave no indication that he had met her parents in turn but he told us that everyone who meant something in his life knew he was serious about his girlfriend.

They had gotten to the stage of living together and he actually told us it was like being on honeymoon every day. They are both in campus and are both in their final year of studies. None of them lives with their folks as they both used to live just outside the campus in different living quarters just before moving in pamoja.  It had been barely a month since they moved in together and the guy decides one morning after class that he wants to duck the rest of the classes for the day. They do different specializations so they have different class schedules. So the guy decides to head home for the rest of the day. What he found he says, shocked him beyond anything he has ever seen in his life. The half naked mwiliz of his girlfriend and a stranger in his nyumba was too much for him. His anger got the better of him as he uniquely puts it “he sorted the dude.” Then he left the house and went to stay with his pal.

He says after the initial anger he started to reason out his love life. He says he appreciates all the good things that his girlfriend brought in his life but feels he will never be able to forgive her. He says that she is very remorseful and wants to be with him still. So he asked muchene what he should do.

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