GROW UP! That is the simple way to put to your child of a man. Some guys just never quite mature. I mean they are tittering on the edge of being a responsible adult but just never quite take the leap.

So how do you know if you are dating a grown baby that needs to GROW UP? Well, here are a few pointers:

He Loves to Blame Other People for Everything

So your man sounds like Shaggy because all he ever says is: “It wasn’t me.” It wasn’t his fault, everybody else is crazy, it’s his baby mother who got him in all the mess he’s in now, blah blah blah. Part of being an adult is knowing when to take responsibility for the part you play in things, as opposed to keeping your finger well groomed and moisturized so you can point it in the direction of someone else. If everyone else seems to be the problem–the dude he fought at the club, his co-worker, his ex, his mother–then it might just be that he’s in denial of the fact that he could be the real problem.

He’s Not As Involved With His Kids As He Should Be

Nothing hurts my soul more than a man who knows he isn’t doing enough for his children but seems to be okay with that. Using angry excuses as to why he doesn’t spend enough time with his son or claiming he can’t afford to buy the child a bday gift yet he just got himself a brand new Xbox is a lack of maturity and a lack of sense of responsibility. You have two kids on your hands now! A man who knows he’s not doing right by his kids and lets it be is probably someone you don’t want to deal with for a long time. If he can’t stand by his own offspring, can you really count on him to stick his neck out for you? Do you even want him to?

He’s Always Asking for Something or Using Your Stuff

This guy is on that Baby Boy type of thing. He’s trying to borrow your car, your money, your phone and eat all your damn food, but of course, he doesn’t have very much to bring to the table like he should. Say something about it and you’re given the “You’re so selfish and always nagging” face. No woman minds sharing something with a man she cares about, but when he’s low-key trying to act like he owns something without contributing anything, then it’s clear he’s got the game all messed up. At least wash a dish…and not just the one plate and fork you used! GROW UP!

He Constantly Talks About or Does Inappropriate things in Public

Anything that’s focused on moving bowel moments, your sexual encounter last night, degrading someone or anything that you wouldn’t want your mom to know about or hear is on this list. Using expletives incessantly, especially when you’re not talking about something that evokes anger is also not the biggest sign of maturity. I mean, what the f**k, you can do better! And please don’t grab my ass in public, pass gas and not say anything (so someone can walk past and inhale your silent bomb) or burp out loud like you were trying to give breath to the world. GROW UP!

He Spends Too Much Time Doing Random Things

Back to the video games…If you know he’s not working at the moment, but spends more time sitting on the couch playing video games as opposed to looking for new employment, he might need to hit the road. And if he’s always coming in the house high as a kite because that seems to be his only hobby with his boys, it’s safe to say that the old boy is NOT a grown man. A smoke here and there can be tolerated, but if he’s play-auditioning for a role in How High II, that just won’t fly…